DAPCHI ABDUCTION :HOW SECURITY FORCES ALLOWED BOKO HARAM TO ABDUCT SCHOOL GIRLS - AMNESTY INTERNATIONAL.

Global human rights watchdog, Amnesty International, AI, has revealed that Nigerian security forces got advance warnings that a convoy of Boko Haram fighters was heading towards Dapchi, a town where 110 schoolgirls were abducted by terrorists on February 19 in an assault similar to the infamous Chibok girls’ abduction of April 2014.
It claimed that no fewer than five calls were put across to security forces between 2pm and 6:30pm on that fateful day of the abduction of female pupils from Government Girls Science and Technical College, Dapchi, Yobe state.
In a report on the incident released yesterday, Amnesty International said the first call was made to the Nigerian Army Command in Geidam, 54km from Dapchi, informing them that Boko Haram fighters had been seen at Futchimiram heading to Gumsa, a village about 30km from Dapchi.
However, the evidence documented by the international group shows that the military did nothing to stop the insurgents.
“The sighting of an armed convoy at Futchimiram immediately sparked several phone calls to alert authorities. Sources who informed the military commander in Geidam at 2p.m. report that he responded to them by saying he was aware of the situation and was monitoring it.
“At about 3pm, the convoy arrived in Gumsa, where they remained till 5pm. People in Gumsa called Dapchi villagers to warn them that Boko Haram fighters were on their way. One villager who received such a call said he informed a police sergeant who promised to notify the Dapchi Division Police Officer (DPO).
“At about 6:30pm, when residents were heading to the mosque for evening prayers, Boko Haram members entered Dapchi. Witnesses said Boko Haram fighters asked for directions to the military post, the local government office and the girls’ school,” the report said.
Amnesty learnt from an eyewitness that approximately 50 Boko Haram fighters stormed Dapchi in a convoy of nine vehicles with Arabic inscriptions on them. The vehicles included seven Land Cruiser trucks, one Hilux and a Canter truck.
A police source in Dapchi also told the group that on sighting them, police officers fled because they feared that the Boko Haram fighters would overpower them. According to victims and eyewitnesses interviewed by AI, Boko Haram left Gumsa for Dapchi at about 5pm, arriving at about 6:30pm.
“They left Dapchi at about 7:30pm in the direction of Gumsa, where villagers say they arrived at about 9p.m. During the attack, army officials both in Geidam and Damaturu were again alerted. The military only arrived in Dapchi shortly after Boko Haram left. Villagers in Dapchi and Gumsa said a military jet arrived about one hour after Boko Haram left Dapchi,” read the report.
AI lamented that in spite of the several distress calls, the Nigerian military neither took effective measures to stop the abduction nor made serious efforts to rescue the girls after they were taken by Boko Haram fighters.
The Director, Amnesty International in Nigeria, Osai Ojigho, maintained in a statement that the Nigerian authorities have failed in their duty to protect civilians, just as they did in Chibok four years ago.
While describing the inaction as, “inexcusable security lapses”, Ojigho said, “Evidence available to Amnesty International suggests that there are insufficient troops deployed in the area, and that an absence of patrols and the failure to respond to warnings and engage with Boko Haram contributed to this tragedy. The government’s failure in this incident must be investigated and the findings made public and it is absolutely crucial that any investigation focuses on the root causes.”

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Dear Ladies,

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KEEPING MEN AWAY BY MISTAKE BY ALEXANDER FOX.

Dear Ladies,

Are you still finding it hard to make men like you MORE than just as their friend? There are so many factors that go into a good relationship. It's like a hundred and one things have to fall in to places at the same time before a relationship can have a chance of working out. Some women make the mistake of blaming everything on their boyfriends. It's like if the relationship doesn't work out: "It's because he was scared of commitment." "It's because he didn't know how to make a relationship work." "It's because he couldn't handle me as a successful woman." Sure, sometimes it IS his fault. After all, 90% of all single men out there are only capable of handling CASUAL relationships. SERIOUS relatio nships, on the other hand, are too much for them to handle. But hey, it's not ALWAYS the guy's fault. After all, it takes two people to make a relationship work. And you, my friends, might be doing something that's keeping the relationship from working out. It could be one of a hundred things. You might be too bossy, you might be too needy, or you might be too eager to get into a serious relationship. You might only be TALKING instead of COMMUNICATING. You might have certain misconceptions about love and relationships. Or you might be a little too hurt from past relationships. The list goes on and on! But one thing is important -- you'll have to ADMIT that you play a part in the relationship's success or failure. You'll have to admit that it's NOT your boyfriend's job to make you happy, and that love really IS a two-way street! So, I'd like to invite you to increase your chances of keeping a man -- by increasing your knowledge about love and relationships. Here's a scenario I've seen ha ppen over and over and over -- a woman WAITS until a guy walks into her life. He's nice, he's fun, and he loves her madly. And for a few months or years, they pursue a great relationship. No doubt, he's her "soulmate," right? But after a while, the relationship loses its passion, and they begin to argue. The relationship gets worse and worse until, finally, it ends in a bad break-up. So what should she do? Sit around again and WAIT for the NEXT "soulmate" to come by? I beg to differ! Friends, when you sit and wait for your "knight in shining armor" to rescue you -- chances are you're being too passive. Here's my message -- waiting is always an option. But why wait when there's a more FUN and ACTIVE way to meet "the one?" Too Many Women CHASE After Men Unfortunately, chasing after men is not one of the "active" ways to make things work. If they don't like you, they're going to do everything they can to stay away from you. But even if they DO like you, they're going to think you're the type who's desperate to RUSH into a relationship -- and they're going to stay away from you, too. So how DO you meet good men without scaring them off? Easy -- you'll have to lead them in by example. Think about it -- what do smart guys prefer? Of course. Smart women. What do independent guys prefer? Independent women. What do fun guys prefer? You get the idea! If you're desperate, and you c hase after men, chances are you'll only b e attracting the DESPERATE men, too. If you're lonely, chances are you'll only be attracting lonely men. If you're scared, chances are you'll only be attracting scared men. If you wait around for your "soul mate," chances are you'll only be attracting men who ALSO sit around and wait. I hope you see what I'm getting at here. To attract your ideal man, you'll have to exhibit the traits that LEAD HIM IN. There's just this one little problem -- what ARE the traits that lead the "real men" in? The Traits Of A "Cool" Woman A few articles back, I wrote about how men describe women they're DEEPLY, EMOTIONALLY IN LOVE with. They don't describe her as "smart," "pretty," "sexy," "well-dressed," or any other EXTERNAL quality. That's only for physical attraction. How do they describe her? "She's cool." Other variations? "She's awesome." "She's fantastic." "She's incredible." But let's use "cool" as a baseline! "Cool" women exhibit great personality traits that attract the REAL, mature men, and keep away the immature, non-committing, wussy ones. These personality traits arm a woman with the right words to say, the right thoughts to think, and the right actions to make in ANY situation with a man. And men simply can't HELP but fall madly in love with such women! I hope you don't mind -- but I made it my personal lifelong mission to make a "cool" woman out of you and the rest of my readers. No joke!

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